The 34-year-old supermodel, known for championing body positivity and acceptance across multiple platforms, candidly discusses how her relationship with her body has changed since becoming a mom in her latest post. Graham also revealed the harsh reality of her childbirth experience with twin boys Malachi and Roman.
“The night I gave birth to my twins, I was bleeding profusely,” she wrote at the beginning of the article, before detailing her three-and-a-half-hour labor, which seemed rather relaxing and celebratory, until she lost consciousness.
“When I finally woke up, I looked around and saw everyone. They kept saying to me, ‘You’re fine. You’re fine. You’re fine.’ They didn’t want to tell me at the time that I was bleeding liters,” she continued. “They didn’t want to tell me that one of the midwives had to turn me over and press a finger over my vaginal bone to try and stop the bleeding. They didn’t want to tell me that my vein arm kept collapsing and they couldn’t get a needle to inject Pitocin. , so they had to put it in my hands. But even though they didn’t want to go into the details at the time, I looked around the room and saw blood everywhere and let out this deep, heartfelt cry–from the moment I just There is an emotion released from the chaos of the experience.”
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For several days, Graham was on a trundle bed because she couldn’t walk, sit up or crawl, and a midwife could push her onto it.
“Thank goodness the twins were fine and I was in bed four days in a row. I couldn’t walk for a week. And I didn’t leave my home for almost two months,” she wrote. “Like many women, what I went through during childbirth reshaped my relationship with my body.”
Graham, who gave birth to her first son, Isaac, two years ago, realised the extra attention her midwife had given her in the days that followed, and she knew she could be ”by the seriousness of the incident’. sex-triggered”.
“I kept telling them, ‘You all saved me. God saved me. It was a real miracle,'” she recalls. “That time was filled with the joy of being with my husband and three sons, the rhythm of our new life, learning and laughter, acceptance and healing.”
Despite many silver linings, the relationship to her body that defined her career was forever changed.
“I’m the one who keeps yelling at you from the rooftops, ‘Love your skin.’ Yet for me, the birth of my three children has thrown a lot out the window,” she said.
Even that changed with the birth of her first child in January 2020.
While Graham described Isaac’s birth as a “magical moment”, she also acknowledged the difficulty of “being caught up in the postpartum experience”.
“I remember the first time I went to the bathroom after having a baby and I said, ‘Wait a minute, this is all going to come out of me, how long will it take next? I have to spray it in there myself because I can’t wipe it?'” she wrote. “Isaac is my whole world, but being a woman is messed up physically and emotionally and it takes a lot of work.”
The pandemic came quickly, continuing to change Graham’s lives with husband Justin Irving and isolating them as new parents as they left New York for Graham’s mother’s home in Nebraska.
“It was a crazy time – we didn’t see anyone and it felt really isolated and challenging, raising this baby without knowing anything. I was obsessed with the 20 pounds too, It just wouldn’t come off and it felt like my body wasn’t my own. I tried to ignore it and say to myself, ‘Girl, you’re okay, who cares,'” she recalls. “I had a few stretch marks, and I cried a few times over them which was really good. But in retrospect, if I knew what I was going to go through — oh, I’m emphasizing more than laughable.”
After returning to New York in September 2020, the couple learned in January 2021 that Graham was pregnant. The miscarriage,” she revealed. “It was devastating; it felt like one of the biggest losses of my life so far. That’s when I understood what many other mothers were going through. “
Although more and more people (including Chrissy Teigen, Halsey and Meghan Markle) have spoken about the difficulty of miscarriage, Graham has a hard time accepting that reality.
“I already had a child and watching him was the only way to relieve the pain, but the loss was so bad,” Graham wrote. “I can’t even comprehend what it’s like for women who haven’t had children and women who have had multiple miscarriages. Say, how heartbreaking this must have been. Yet the world wants us to move on and handle our grief gracefully. I just remember breaking down a few times, just casually, and thinking, ‘How do women around the world do this? A little? Because my story is no bigger than everyone else’s.'”
After deciding to have more children, Graham and Owen were surprised to find they were carrying twins.
“It was unbelievable, overwhelming and joyous,” she wrote. “But as far as I know, it’s pretty much the end of my body. I’m getting big and fast.”
While Graham continues to post photos on social media and share messages about body positivity, even as her body grows and changes, she admits it’s hard to come to terms with how she looks.
“I talked to the midwife. I talked to Justin. I kept raising this issue with my team. I was like, ‘You don’t understand. I used to be a sex symbol, now I’m a baby maker, I Stretch marks on my belly button. What’s the effect?'” she said. “Then one day I stopped and thought, fuck it, this is my life, I Posted a picture of my stretch marks On Instagram, my husband described it to me the other day that it looked like a tree of life. Bless him. “
She was praised for this photo. But accepting that her body looked “wasn’t that simple.”
“The birth of Malachi and Roman was unbelievable, but the consequences were disastrous. I couldn’t walk properly, let alone exercise, for a long time. I would shiver and I couldn’t feel myself physically or emotionally. I was planning to be back at work in eight weeks but I was devastated and still felt like I looked pregnant when I saw myself in the mirror,” she wrote.
As a result, she took longer breaks from get off work than she expected.
“I feel and still feel very lucky that I was able to take longer maternity leave than I planned,” she said. “However, my industry wants me back to work in a body that has ‘rebounded’ – a pressure that no woman in any industry should feel. I’ve struggled with unfair and unrealistic standards , and, however, if I’m being completely honest, here I am, expecting a quick recovery. And quick.”
Graham returns with a new Knix campaign, where she reveals what she admires most about the company’s approach to the postpartum experience.
“They gave me time,” she said. “We postponed the shoot until my skin felt better – more ready to model in underwear, stretch marks, etc.”
With the launch of the Reveal Yourself series, Graham hopes to inspire vulnerability and strength by sharing her story and acknowledging that her journey as a body advocate has changed.
“I learned that it’s okay if the journey of loving the skin you’re in is more complicated than you think,” she wrote. “Even now, if I’m being completely honest, I’m going from wave to wave. Regardless of my own body positivity propaganda, I’m still not very comfortable with my body. Some days I look at myself and I say, ‘You There’s nothing you can’t handle. There’s nothing you can’t do. Then I looked at the stretch marks on my stomach that were still there and will always be there, and I thought, ‘Oh my God, why are you crawling above my belly button? Look at God For the sake of it, I’m a lingerie model. It’s not what an lingerie model looks like. But then I reminded myself, well, ‘I was never the norm for a typical lingerie model.'”
She continued: “Day in and day out, I tell myself that I’m a warrior, I’ve conceived and given birth to my baby, I’ve survived the bleeding, as a mother of my three boys, but still with ‘I’ body has changed. But today is one of those days that I am incredibly proud of. “
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